Emotional pain won’t just go away if you ignore it; you've got to deal with it.
Maybe you’ve seen people who try to hide their
pain. They put on a pretend smile when inside they are dying emotionally.
Like a duck gliding along the surface of a pond, they seem calm and
unruffled, while underneath they’re paddling like mad just to stay afloat.
Are you in a relationship where everything is going smoothly and suddenly without warning your partner calls you up and tell you it is over Or he or she feels you dont love as much as before or complains outrightly "you dont love me anymore"
However, the most common complaint of
couples today is that they've fallen out of love. The love has ended or is eroding?
Love "ends" when it has been looked for in the wrong place to start with.
Mostly the love sought from a partner is to fill an aching gap inside.
But fundamentally, no one has the capacity to make anyone fulfilled and happy, because that comes from
within (or from God).
The love and acceptance has to
be firstly by self for self (or some might say by God).
It is a big burden to be responsible for someone else's long term, sustained happiness - especially when generally it
is something that comes and goes in any case!
So often there is the initial excitement & high, with 'Oh my God, I finally feel complete, you make me so happy, I
love you (for making me happy, and I don't want this happiness to end ever)'....Then reality kicks in, the nitty
gritty of domesticity.... And when the point is reached of blaming the other for not feeling happy any more, then it
ends.
Why must your partner be THE barrier for you?
Why must your partner all of a sudden be your #1 enemy?
Why must your partner always be the reason for every single discomfort you feel?
And therefore becomes a target for your "hate"?
I look forward to other contributions. CIB
Maybe you’ve seen people who try to hide their
pain. They put on a pretend smile when inside they are dying emotionally.
Like a duck gliding along the surface of a pond, they seem calm and
unruffled, while underneath they’re paddling like mad just to stay afloat.
Are you in a relationship where everything is going smoothly and suddenly without warning your partner calls you up and tell you it is over Or he or she feels you dont love as much as before or complains outrightly "you dont love me anymore"
However, the most common complaint of
couples today is that they've fallen out of love. The love has ended or is eroding?
Love "ends" when it has been looked for in the wrong place to start with.
Mostly the love sought from a partner is to fill an aching gap inside.
But fundamentally, no one has the capacity to make anyone fulfilled and happy, because that comes from
within (or from God).
The love and acceptance has to
be firstly by self for self (or some might say by God).
It is a big burden to be responsible for someone else's long term, sustained happiness - especially when generally it
is something that comes and goes in any case!
So often there is the initial excitement & high, with 'Oh my God, I finally feel complete, you make me so happy, I
love you (for making me happy, and I don't want this happiness to end ever)'....Then reality kicks in, the nitty
gritty of domesticity.... And when the point is reached of blaming the other for not feeling happy any more, then it
ends.
Why must your partner be THE barrier for you?
Why must your partner all of a sudden be your #1 enemy?
Why must your partner always be the reason for every single discomfort you feel?
And therefore becomes a target for your "hate"?
I look forward to other contributions. CIB
Mayb evrytin dat hs a beginning has an end
ReplyDeletethat should be for dating or relationships, can it apply to marriage?
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