It’s not easy to forget when someone breaks your trust, especially if you fear it might be broken again, but holding
onto doubt is a surefire way to suffer.
Its just part of life and part of any kind of relationship. People will break your trust and hurt you bad.
Little hurts worse than the suspicion that someone else or same person
might hurt you again.
This isn’t the kind of thing you can just brush off through positive thinking. You can’t make yourself feel
trusting by telling yourself you should be, or
rationalizing away your feelings.
The reality is it takes time and effort to trust again. It takes the help of the HolySpirit. It
takes the courage to acknowledge how you feel and
willingness from the other person to hear and honour it.
It takes a mutual commitment to move beyond what happened instead of reliving and rehashing.
But most importantly, it requires you to believe in the goodness and positive intentions of the person who
hurt you. Believe again, believe the best. Hope for the best. Dont relish in the past. Dont replay the past.
You have to believe again that someone can treat you with respect and consideration—even if it takes you a while
to get there—or else you’ll never let your guard down.
That’s a painful place to be.
The thing about being defensive is that everything becomes a battle and a struggle and no one ever wins. Its too much drama and too much negative energy.
Of course this doesn’t mean we can ever know for certain that someone won’t hurt us again.
The only way we can know if we’re able to trust someone is by first
giving them trust.
That means we need to ask ourselves: Is this
relationship worth that risk?
Is it worth feeling vulnerable?
Is it worth forgiving?
Is it worth letting go of the story?
And if it’s worth it, what would it look like to give trust, starting right now?
And remember, great relationships are not made by great lovers but by great forgivers.
If you are still hurting, there's always healing for hurt.
onto doubt is a surefire way to suffer.
Its just part of life and part of any kind of relationship. People will break your trust and hurt you bad.
Little hurts worse than the suspicion that someone else or same person
might hurt you again.
This isn’t the kind of thing you can just brush off through positive thinking. You can’t make yourself feel
trusting by telling yourself you should be, or
rationalizing away your feelings.
The reality is it takes time and effort to trust again. It takes the help of the HolySpirit. It
takes the courage to acknowledge how you feel and
willingness from the other person to hear and honour it.
It takes a mutual commitment to move beyond what happened instead of reliving and rehashing.
But most importantly, it requires you to believe in the goodness and positive intentions of the person who
hurt you. Believe again, believe the best. Hope for the best. Dont relish in the past. Dont replay the past.
You have to believe again that someone can treat you with respect and consideration—even if it takes you a while
to get there—or else you’ll never let your guard down.
That’s a painful place to be.
The thing about being defensive is that everything becomes a battle and a struggle and no one ever wins. Its too much drama and too much negative energy.
Of course this doesn’t mean we can ever know for certain that someone won’t hurt us again.
The only way we can know if we’re able to trust someone is by first
giving them trust.
That means we need to ask ourselves: Is this
relationship worth that risk?
Is it worth feeling vulnerable?
Is it worth forgiving?
Is it worth letting go of the story?
And if it’s worth it, what would it look like to give trust, starting right now?
And remember, great relationships are not made by great lovers but by great forgivers.
If you are still hurting, there's always healing for hurt.
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