DATING...So many have confused it for
something else. Is it right for Christians to
date?
Yes ofcourse...But ofcourse, it has to be
with a clear intent in mind and ofcourse, it
has to be with some DOs and DONTs.
These DOs and DONTs are for the good of
the people involved in it. Emotional scarring
occurs when a dating goes bad and this can
affect both your physical and spiritual life.
To keep your heart safe, you need to date
right when you are ready for that. Why is it
necessary that we keep our hearts
safe? ....Out of our hearts flows the issues
of life!
The tips below from Jarrrid Wilson will help
you date right.
However, if you are dating for the first time please be sure you are of age and
that you are dating for a definite purpose -
marriage - before you jump into it. Also,
avoid all that is not Godly in it too....
10 Healthy Dating Practices
WRITEN BY JARID WILSON
There are plenty of unhealthy ways to date,
so I’ve compiled 10 healthy dating practices
that I believe cut to the core of what it
means to date with intentionality and
maturity.
1. Date with intention.
This is going to be for the best of both
parties involved. Dating isn’t a game, and
the last thing you want to do is get in a
relationship with someone when your
intentions are anything but pure. If you’re
just looking for fun, I’d recommend you be
open and honest about your intentions with
anyone you meet or connect with. It’s only
fair to them and their emotions.
2. Make sure your first date is
in a public place.
You just never know who you’re going to
meet. I’d recommend your first date be in a
public place, in front of lots of people and
I’d even recommend you let your friends
know where you will be in case something
were to happen. You never know who the
person you’ve chatted with on the phone
might act in person, and the last thing you
want to happen is end up in a private place
with someone whose motives are anything
but respectful.
3. Try to learn as much as you
can before meeting them.
Ahh. Yes, the beauty of social media. If they
have public profiles, then make sure to do
your due diligence and research as much as
you can about the person. It only makes
sense to do a little Facebook stalking to see
who you’re meeting with. C’mon… we’ve all
done it. While someone’s online profiles
might not always match up with how they
act in person, it’s always a good idea to see
how someone presents themselves online
and it may give you the opportunity to end a
date before it even starts. Better to be safe
than sorry.
4. Value the input of your
friends and family.
Your friends and family play a valuable role
in your dating life, and it’s always good to
get their opinions when it comes to the
person you are dating. Mind you, they might
always give the best advice but it’s always
good to get wisdom from the people who
are looking out for your best interest.
5. Continue to stay social with
your friends and family.
Don’t be that person who gets a relationship
and then disappears from the face of the
planet. We all know that person. Yes, I
know you want to spend time with your new
bae, but it’s also healthy to continue carving
out time for your friends and family
members.
6. Have a “define the
relationship” every few dates
to see how things are going.
Nobody likes dating in the dark. I don’t
mean literally, but emotionally. Not knowing
where your relationship stands can be
extremely stressful, so I suggest that you
and your new girl/guy take time every few
weeks to discuss where each other is at with
things. This will give you both clarity, keep
the relationship healthy, and keep the
relationship from ever going farther than it
needs to.
7. Be open and honest from
the very beginning.
Relationships thrive on transparency. Letting
people know about you from the very
beginning is quite possibly the best thing
you can do for your relationship. Everyone’s
made mistakes, and I’d encourage you to
share about the big pieces of your life that
have made you who you are today. Don’t
keep things hidden in fear of rejection. Be
open.
8. Don’t play with someone’s
emotions. If it’s not working,
then end it.
Some relationships are kind of like the t.v
show ‘ American Idol’—they go on way
longer than they actually should. Seriously
though, don’t keep a relationship going just
for the heck of it. The best thing you can
do is be transparent about how you’re
feeling. If things aren’t working out, then
end it with care. Ending the relationship as
soon as you realize it’s not working out will
show you care about the person more than
dragging it along for the heck of it. Trust
me.
9. Don’t have important
conversations via text or email.
We’ve all been there. Auto-correct and text
interpretation can be a relationships worst
nightmare. Save the important conversations
for an actual conversation, not a banter of
back and forth emoji’s and broken english.
Plus, waiting to talk in person will give you
time to really think about what you want to
say instead of texting out of pure emotion.
10. Don’t settle.
Simple. Don’t settle for a mediocre
relationship. You deserve to be with
someone who supports you, encourages
you, cares for you, and loves you for who
you are. Don’t settle for mediocre when you
could have extraordinary.
—Jarrid Wilson
something else. Is it right for Christians to
date?
Yes ofcourse...But ofcourse, it has to be
with a clear intent in mind and ofcourse, it
has to be with some DOs and DONTs.
These DOs and DONTs are for the good of
the people involved in it. Emotional scarring
occurs when a dating goes bad and this can
affect both your physical and spiritual life.
To keep your heart safe, you need to date
right when you are ready for that. Why is it
necessary that we keep our hearts
safe? ....Out of our hearts flows the issues
of life!
The tips below from Jarrrid Wilson will help
you date right.
However, if you are dating for the first time please be sure you are of age and
that you are dating for a definite purpose -
marriage - before you jump into it. Also,
avoid all that is not Godly in it too....
10 Healthy Dating Practices
WRITEN BY JARID WILSON
There are plenty of unhealthy ways to date,
so I’ve compiled 10 healthy dating practices
that I believe cut to the core of what it
means to date with intentionality and
maturity.
1. Date with intention.
This is going to be for the best of both
parties involved. Dating isn’t a game, and
the last thing you want to do is get in a
relationship with someone when your
intentions are anything but pure. If you’re
just looking for fun, I’d recommend you be
open and honest about your intentions with
anyone you meet or connect with. It’s only
fair to them and their emotions.
2. Make sure your first date is
in a public place.
You just never know who you’re going to
meet. I’d recommend your first date be in a
public place, in front of lots of people and
I’d even recommend you let your friends
know where you will be in case something
were to happen. You never know who the
person you’ve chatted with on the phone
might act in person, and the last thing you
want to happen is end up in a private place
with someone whose motives are anything
but respectful.
3. Try to learn as much as you
can before meeting them.
Ahh. Yes, the beauty of social media. If they
have public profiles, then make sure to do
your due diligence and research as much as
you can about the person. It only makes
sense to do a little Facebook stalking to see
who you’re meeting with. C’mon… we’ve all
done it. While someone’s online profiles
might not always match up with how they
act in person, it’s always a good idea to see
how someone presents themselves online
and it may give you the opportunity to end a
date before it even starts. Better to be safe
than sorry.
4. Value the input of your
friends and family.
Your friends and family play a valuable role
in your dating life, and it’s always good to
get their opinions when it comes to the
person you are dating. Mind you, they might
always give the best advice but it’s always
good to get wisdom from the people who
are looking out for your best interest.
5. Continue to stay social with
your friends and family.
Don’t be that person who gets a relationship
and then disappears from the face of the
planet. We all know that person. Yes, I
know you want to spend time with your new
bae, but it’s also healthy to continue carving
out time for your friends and family
members.
6. Have a “define the
relationship” every few dates
to see how things are going.
Nobody likes dating in the dark. I don’t
mean literally, but emotionally. Not knowing
where your relationship stands can be
extremely stressful, so I suggest that you
and your new girl/guy take time every few
weeks to discuss where each other is at with
things. This will give you both clarity, keep
the relationship healthy, and keep the
relationship from ever going farther than it
needs to.
7. Be open and honest from
the very beginning.
Relationships thrive on transparency. Letting
people know about you from the very
beginning is quite possibly the best thing
you can do for your relationship. Everyone’s
made mistakes, and I’d encourage you to
share about the big pieces of your life that
have made you who you are today. Don’t
keep things hidden in fear of rejection. Be
open.
8. Don’t play with someone’s
emotions. If it’s not working,
then end it.
Some relationships are kind of like the t.v
show ‘ American Idol’—they go on way
longer than they actually should. Seriously
though, don’t keep a relationship going just
for the heck of it. The best thing you can
do is be transparent about how you’re
feeling. If things aren’t working out, then
end it with care. Ending the relationship as
soon as you realize it’s not working out will
show you care about the person more than
dragging it along for the heck of it. Trust
me.
9. Don’t have important
conversations via text or email.
We’ve all been there. Auto-correct and text
interpretation can be a relationships worst
nightmare. Save the important conversations
for an actual conversation, not a banter of
back and forth emoji’s and broken english.
Plus, waiting to talk in person will give you
time to really think about what you want to
say instead of texting out of pure emotion.
10. Don’t settle.
Simple. Don’t settle for a mediocre
relationship. You deserve to be with
someone who supports you, encourages
you, cares for you, and loves you for who
you are. Don’t settle for mediocre when you
could have extraordinary.
—Jarrid Wilson
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