Here are 7 things wives need to know - but may not know - about your husband:
1 His ego is more fragile than you imagined.
I know, you're
probably tired of hearing about the male ego. I get it. But, it hasn't gone away and, frankly, the world isn't too kind on
our ego. We see the jokes on every sitcom and commercial about how inadequate we are at times. But, there's not a
man with a soul that's alive that doesn't want to
be admired
by the woman in his life. Not one.
2 He is very visual.
Very. More than you are probably thinking.
You see his eyes roam. That's a natural reaction for him. He doesn't have to work on it. Now he has responsibility over
his eyes - not the girl who attracted them - but if there's a
pretty girl around, he probably saw her long before you did.
And, he likely battles staring more than you will ever understand.
3 He doesn't want you to be his mother. You can say "Ouch!"
if you need to, but men want a wife, not a mom. I hear this from men frequently - especially young men. If you're a mom
they want you to be a great mom - just not theirs. I know we need mothering sometimes. All of us do. We may even act
like big babies at times. But, mothering a husband never works. Ever. Be our partner. Our best friend. Not our mother.
4 When you correct him you hurt him. That doesn't mean he
doesn't need correcting. He might. But, the way you do this is huge. Your respect for him is huge for him. His greatest
emotional need. That could be in how he fixes the bed - or the fact that he doesn't - or for things far worse. If he senses
you are talking down to him - not respecting him - he may
comply with your wishes in actions (or not) but inside his
heart will be growing colder towards you.
5 He loves you uniquely.
He probably won't love you all the
ways you expect him to love. And, frankly, he won't be all the love you need him to be. He may not always feel love as
an emotion as strongly as you do. Your heart is capable of
much more than he can fill completely. There will be times -
hopefully even seasons when he does - but no man will meet every need of your heart. (Other than the man Jesus.)
6 What he does really is who he is many times.
It's his identity. If it's golf, his career, fishing, antique cars or his
extensive comic book collection - that's a part of him. When you miss that or don't value it he may feel like less of a man.
7 He probably thinks you're more wonderful than you think he does.
And, he has a strong desire to protect you because of it. He sees all you are capable of doing. He wonders how
you keep up with everyone and everything as you do. He may even envy that about you. He respects you - probably more
than he knows how to communicate to you.
©2015 Ron Edmondson
Guys, anything you would add?
Kindly do so.
HAVE A GREAT WEEK.
CIB
1 His ego is more fragile than you imagined.
I know, you're
probably tired of hearing about the male ego. I get it. But, it hasn't gone away and, frankly, the world isn't too kind on
our ego. We see the jokes on every sitcom and commercial about how inadequate we are at times. But, there's not a
man with a soul that's alive that doesn't want to
be admired
by the woman in his life. Not one.
2 He is very visual.
Very. More than you are probably thinking.
You see his eyes roam. That's a natural reaction for him. He doesn't have to work on it. Now he has responsibility over
his eyes - not the girl who attracted them - but if there's a
pretty girl around, he probably saw her long before you did.
And, he likely battles staring more than you will ever understand.
3 He doesn't want you to be his mother. You can say "Ouch!"
if you need to, but men want a wife, not a mom. I hear this from men frequently - especially young men. If you're a mom
they want you to be a great mom - just not theirs. I know we need mothering sometimes. All of us do. We may even act
like big babies at times. But, mothering a husband never works. Ever. Be our partner. Our best friend. Not our mother.
4 When you correct him you hurt him. That doesn't mean he
doesn't need correcting. He might. But, the way you do this is huge. Your respect for him is huge for him. His greatest
emotional need. That could be in how he fixes the bed - or the fact that he doesn't - or for things far worse. If he senses
you are talking down to him - not respecting him - he may
comply with your wishes in actions (or not) but inside his
heart will be growing colder towards you.
5 He loves you uniquely.
He probably won't love you all the
ways you expect him to love. And, frankly, he won't be all the love you need him to be. He may not always feel love as
an emotion as strongly as you do. Your heart is capable of
much more than he can fill completely. There will be times -
hopefully even seasons when he does - but no man will meet every need of your heart. (Other than the man Jesus.)
6 What he does really is who he is many times.
It's his identity. If it's golf, his career, fishing, antique cars or his
extensive comic book collection - that's a part of him. When you miss that or don't value it he may feel like less of a man.
7 He probably thinks you're more wonderful than you think he does.
And, he has a strong desire to protect you because of it. He sees all you are capable of doing. He wonders how
you keep up with everyone and everything as you do. He may even envy that about you. He respects you - probably more
than he knows how to communicate to you.
©2015 Ron Edmondson
Guys, anything you would add?
Kindly do so.
HAVE A GREAT WEEK.
CIB
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